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‘Betrayal’ – Nothing Easy About It!

28 Oct

Here’s Wikipedia’s definition: Betrayal is the breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust, or confidence that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations. It’s a pretty conclusive and clear definition but it doesn’t even come close to describing the pain, emotional conflict and relationship devastation that nearly always ensues.

There’s no doubt about it…betrayal is one of the hardest things to endure in the human experience. And what can be even more discouraging is the reality that most of us, in the course of our lives, will find ourselves in that place…..that of the one who’s been betrayed. Where the relationships have been deep and strong the devastation is also deep and strong. Not much that I’ve experienced in my life compares to the pain of outright betrayal. It strikes at the very heart of ‘who’ we are and leaves us in a very weakened and vulnerable spot. That spot can be permanent if we don’t tend to our own hearts and walk our way out of it.

It’s a proven fact that ‘hurt people’…..’hurt people’! *People who are deeply hurt, if it’s not ‘fixed’, hurt others too. They end up living their entire existence out of the pain of betrayal. It’s a sad situation….but it happens a lot.  It can, and most often does, take years to fully recover. But it’s do-able, with the Lord’s help, and we should set our hearts to try.

The ‘real test’ actually comes after the incident of betrayal. The most vital question is not whether or not we can recover from our being betrayed…but can we recover to the degree that we can lay our whole heart out there again to trust….and love again? 

There’s no easy way to recover; at best it takes a long, long time. I do know that to run to the Lord is the right thing. His grace will help to lighten the load, after all, He knows all about betrayal……He overcame it….and so can you!

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5 responses to “‘Betrayal’ – Nothing Easy About It!

  1. Ricke Kirkland

    October 28, 2015 at 7:20 am

    Just what I needed this morning. THank you Andy. I so enjoy your blog!

     
    • Andy R Taylor

      October 28, 2015 at 7:45 am

      Thank you so much, Ricke!! Hope all is well with you!

       
  2. Diane Marquez

    October 28, 2015 at 5:46 pm

    I really needed to read this Andy. Thank you!

     
  3. Ruth Humble Zeman

    May 24, 2016 at 3:12 pm

    Beautifully said.
    I found myself nodding as I read agreeing.

    My betrayal was in the form of an affair. It blindsided me and to add insult to injure was discovered to have occurred over my 15th anniversary.

    But, God.

    With God it is possible. This year I celebrate 18 years. Whole and healed in a way that literally could not have been imagined at the time.

    ONLY GOD can do that. I know I’m not that gracious, LOL.

    So I would challenge that with God it doesn’t always take a terribly long time. It certainly can but God gave me a miracle of healing in less than two years. Which considering – isn’t long.

     
    • Andy R Taylor

      May 25, 2016 at 9:54 pm

      Thank you Ruth! Your story will give hope to anyone who reads it! You’re right…..the Father will bring healing!

       

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